I was reading my last post -- you know, the one about reviewers with egotistical mindsets in relation to Barbies, and then my ignorance out there in full-view on topic with what's going on in Washington. Those reviewers though; I just can't get the thought of Barbies out of my head. The female reviewer there at the last comparing the other parent's raising of her child with Barbies to What About Bob? when Dr. Leo Marvin played perfectly the hypertensive persona, by character-actor for most of his career, the one-the only Richard Dreyfus tries to communicate in the film with his 17-year-old daughter with a puppet that looks exactly like him -- this thread leader on the discussion board has a daughter who is maybe 6, 7, or 8 years of age, pretty vast difference between 17 and 6, oh fuck yeah, 17 with 8, my land, still a remarkable maturity differentiation. Don't try to rush your child's comprehension of the world by talking to them like they are adults, you don't want to scare your kids.
There is something to be said about the doll-method. You still put up a barrier, a mask if-you-will in having the dolls talk for you. You are still listening and wanting to crack the mind of your 6, 7, 8 year-old, right, like they'd rationally hold back anything had you raised them well enough to not feel like they couldn't tell you the world; that is what we do as functionally adult human beings, even if some of us aren't parents yet. There is effort in the "doll-method" to effortlessly talk openly with your sibling at a young age, maybe first teaching them the importance of being honest and trustworthy. That is the way to open a kid up, to let them know, make them feel that they are trustworthy, that they can trust you and that they learn and find value in becoming able to accept trust from others.
Which leads me to another point I wanted to make now that you know I'm here to point out things. Kids these days...
I'm starting to believe that perhaps they are growing up too quickly. Oh yeah, now that you've all lined up to go down the slide! Here we go. Elaboration. I feel like kids are talked to matter-of-factly, to put it the way that last woman put it, and it sort of makes me sick. I can remember witnessing a conversation that I, as a child, had a lot of questions about which led the conversation to teeter and eventually become awkward due to the questions I asked, and feeling like the adults in the situation were stammering to correctly relate to me, in a childish-way, what was happening in the adult situation. Like explaining Columbine to first-graders. Okay, by the way, these individuals who are referred to as adults were teachers, and they're paid to respond to kids, part of their pay comes from responding to kids, and I can't say it's an easy accomplishment given that I would've faltered in explaining what it was the adults were explaining to me in my scenario, and teachers explaining why Columbine happened and who would want to shoot students, and not even mentioning that students were killing other students and faculty. Try it matter-of-factly and you risk horrifying young minds. Judge me if you will, but I'm thinking that's a pretty risky parenting decision, given that adulthood in children pretty much leads to them finding out about sex with the opposite sex, the same sex, and they'll go about that by how much you taught them about it. You really think overstimulating a mind's growth and maturity by what information is accessible to your children right off the bat is the right way to go about it?
